The Nine Sensual Flirt Steps

Created for the Tantric Dating Summit by Eleanor Rutman

The Tantric Summit on Live Tantra takes place between 1st and 5th May Join here.

First Date Magic: Flirting Without the Faking

I’m truly honoured to be speaking alongside more than 35 incredible Tantra teachers — including legends like Margot Anand, Aaron Kleinerman, and my own beloved mentors Elaine Yonge, Shashi Solluna and Minke de Vos.

My talk? It's about real connection.

Flirting isn't about cheesy lines or trying to impress.

It’s about feeling — attuning to your body, your energy, your truth.

Because let’s be honest: the sexiest thing you can bring to a date?

Your unfiltered, alive, radiant self.

The 9 Sensual Flirt Steps

1. Feel yourself – be in touch with your own body and presence

2. Perceive and read the other person

3. Stay in contact – keep the conversation flowing (like a game of ping-pong / pick up the thread)

4. Listen to understand, not just to respond

5. Notice how it feels – how do I feel with this person? What are they stirring in me?

6. Express your needs

7. Let go of expectations – stay open

8. Sense and communicate your boundaries

9. Play and experiment! Definitely make some mistakes. Keep it light.

   
   

Attitude: I'm OK and you're OK.

The Tantric Dating Summit "Connect is taking place between 1st and 5th May 2025. Maybe you still want to join? Click here! And: There will be a replay!